The Secret to Building Passion and Desire with Your Guy Lots of things matter in life. Your career. Your health. Your finances. But nothing matters quite as much as your relationships.
I mean, think about it. What's the fun of "succeeding" if there's no one there to celebrate it with you?
Even something as simple as a beautiful sunset loses much of its significance if there's no one by your side to enjoy it with you.
Though I should confess...
I am a little biased. Because I'm a professional relationship coach. Which means I spend my days helping people get the relationship they want.
And I spend my off-hours investing in the people that make my life rich and rewarding. So my world pretty much revolves around relationships.
Helping people find romantic bliss is what I do. Does that sound fun to you? Well I can tell you it is, but it hasn't always been that way.
You see, people only look for me when something's going wrong in their relationship world. There have been days when I left the office with an aching heart. Too many stories of emotional pain.
Too many people I care about-people I hold in my heart-feeling lonely or rejected. People who deserve joy and laughter and meaningful connections with a person who claims them as their own.
You know what I'm talking about, right? Romantic relationships. Two people discovering a special kind of joy in each other's arms. Two people who want each other more than anything else.
It's exciting. It's beautiful. And it's worth going after.
But sometimes you don't know how to go after it.
The man you love could be standing right in front of you, but you simply don't know how to win his heart.
Or problems rob your relationship of momentum before it can become what it was meant to be.
It's not fair! You can see what you want. And you're willing to work REALLY hard to get it. But there's something blocking your way.
What's blocking your love life?
Well, it comes down to this. There's nothing to grab on to! You can't get a foothold.
It's like being at the bottom of a pit with perfectly smooth walls, rounded on all sides. You can't climb your way out if there's nothing to grab hold of.
The pit is just wide enough so that you cannot reach both sides at once.
All the motivation in the world won't help you out of this situation. You need someone to throw you a rope.
But I have good news...
I'm about to throw you a rope.
How To Build Relationship Momentum Fast:
Momentum matters. Your relationship needs forward momentum. Without it you feel stuck in the mud. Like a race car with tons of horsepower but tires that spin uselessly in a muddy ditch.
But with momentum everything changes.
With a running start, any car could coast past the muddy patch...even with flat tires. Pure momentum. It's powerful stuff.
That's what I want for your relationship. Momentum in the right direction.
I don't care where things stand between you and your man right now. Maybe he's a guy you've set your sights on. Or maybe you're already in some form of relationship with him.
Regardless, I'm going to show you how to use momentum to your advantage. I'm going to share three secrets for building momentum in your romantic relationship.
The Key to Jumpstarting Your Momentum:
Here's the truth about why momentum works. It sets off a chain reaction.
Most people feel stuck because they try to charge after romantic bliss. They look for the most direct route. But it only results in heartache.
And I need to tell you something...
If you're a woman who is used to succeeding in life, romance can be particularly frustrating for you.
That's because you've learned how life works. You see what you want and you decide you're willing to pay the price to get it.
Typically, the "price" is a lot of hard work. You put in that hard work and you usually get the reward you were going after.
But relationships don't work that way. You can't change the way someone else feels about you simply by trying harder.
And Here's the Really Good News:
Just like he can sense frustration, irritation, and annoyance, he can also sense the opposite. He can sense the positive, alluring vibe that happens when you focus on what you have to offer him.
But there's more to it than just that.
Something changes inside you when you adopt this belief system. The belief that you have something incredibly valuable to offer.
It changes the way you think. And it changes the way you think in such a way that you begin to automatically build momentum.
The way you build momentum is by investing in a future you feel confident about. You begin to take small actions that reflect the confidence you feel in what the relationship will become.
Quick Story:
Now, if you're ready for secret #3, go ahead and skip down to that part now. But if you'd like one example of the 1% rule in action, you'll find this story interesting.
A friend of mine used to work in a nursing home as a recreational director.
She told me the unfolding saga of two employees who worked there.
One was an assistant in her department, and the other was the head of the maintenance department.
The assistant had a huge crush on the maintenance guy.
But the only reason my friend knew about it was because the assistant bashfully asked if she would get in trouble for flirting with a fellow employee at work.
After that, they just seemed to become a couple.
My friend had to ask what happened because she never saw any indication of flirting.
Why is this happening?
As a relationship coach with years of experience, I can take a pretty good guess. It's ambivalence.
In other words, he feels pulled in two different directions.
He wants the good stuff that comes from his relationship with you. But he's nervous about what it all means.
Men go through several stages in life. Each stage changes how they react to the prospect of a committed relationship. I teach courses about those different stages, but it's beyond the scope of what we're trying to accomplish here. So let me just give one summary statement.
Give him a clear definition of success:
That's it. But let me tell you why it works.
You see, he's not afraid of having a fantastic relationship with you. He's not afraid of succeeding with you. He's not afraid of creating something deep and meaningful with you.
Rather, he's afraid of failure. He's afraid of giving you the wrong idea and then changing his mind.
In his mind, he has defined commitment as a trap:
It's not you. You are pleasurable and fun.
But commitment feels like something else. It feels like an unknown.
And floating in a world of ambivalence-a world where he never totally commits to anything-allows him to sidestep the fear of getting stuck in a situation where he can't win.
So your job is to remove the "unknown" part of this equation. Do that and everything changes.
How do you do that? You do it by giving him a more concrete definition of success.
In other words, show him exactly what he needs to do in order to "win" with you. Remove ambiguity. Remove the unknown.
The Synergistic Effect:
Remember how earlier I told you that we convince ourselves with our own actions? Well defining success as pleasure gets him to take action.
Making you happy becomes like a game to him. A game he enjoys. A game he wants to win.
So it's only natural that the more action he takes to make you happy, the more he inadvertently convinces himself that a long-term relationship with you is what he wants. Because at some deep-down level, he senses it would make you happy.
Meanwhile, the 1% rule is operating in the background. Each step feels small, yet it results in a stride that lengthens over time.
Visit our Free Presentation on how to become His Secret Obsession:
https://tinyurl.com/ju726as4 #secretobsession #loveandmoney #devotionforlife #secretmaleobsession #loveyoudeserve #physicalattraction The Secret to Building Passion and Desire with Your Guy Lots of things matter in life. Your career. Your health. Your finances. But nothing matters quite as much as your relationships.
I mean, think about it. What's the fun of "succeeding" if there's no one there to celebrate it with you?
Even something as simple as a beautiful sunset loses much of its significance if there's no one by your side to enjoy it with you.
Though I should confess...
I am a little biased. Because I'm a professional relationship coach. Which means I spend my days helping people get the relationship they want.
And I spend my off-hours investing in the people that make my life rich and rewarding. So my world pretty much revolves around relationships.
Helping people find romantic bliss is what I do. Does that sound fun to you? Well I can tell you it is, but it hasn't always been that way.
You see, people only look for me when something's going wrong in their relationship world. There have been days when I left the office with an aching heart. Too many stories of emotional pain.
Too many people I care about-people I hold in my heart-feeling lonely or rejected. People who deserve joy and laughter and meaningful connections with a person who claims them as their own.
You know what I'm talking about, right? Romantic relationships. Two people discovering a special kind of joy in each other's arms. Two people who want each other more than anything else.
It's exciting. It's beautiful. And it's worth going after.
But sometimes you don't know how to go after it.
The man you love could be standing right in front of you, but you simply don't know how to win his heart.
Or problems rob your relationship of momentum before it can become what it was meant to be.
It's not fair! You can see what you want. And you're willing to work REALLY hard to get it. But there's something blocking your way.
What's blocking your love life?
Well, it comes down to this. There's nothing to grab on to! You can't get a foothold.
It's like being at the bottom of a pit with perfectly smooth walls, rounded on all sides. You can't climb your way out if there's nothing to grab hold of.
The pit is just wide enough so that you cannot reach both sides at once.
All the motivation in the world won't help you out of this situation. You need someone to throw you a rope.
But I have good news...
I'm about to throw you a rope.
How To Build Relationship Momentum Fast:
Momentum matters. Your relationship needs forward momentum. Without it you feel stuck in the mud. Like a race car with tons of horsepower but tires that spin uselessly in a muddy ditch.
But with momentum everything changes.
With a running start, any car could coast past the muddy patch...even with flat tires. Pure momentum. It's powerful stuff.
That's what I want for your relationship. Momentum in the right direction.
I don't care where things stand between you and your man right now. Maybe he's a guy you've set your sights on. Or maybe you're already in some form of relationship with him.
Regardless, I'm going to show you how to use momentum to your advantage. I'm going to share three secrets for building momentum in your romantic relationship.
The Key to Jumpstarting Your Momentum:
Here's the truth about why momentum works. It sets off a chain reaction.
Most people feel stuck because they try to charge after romantic bliss. They look for the most direct route. But it only results in heartache.
And I need to tell you something...
If you're a woman who is used to succeeding in life, romance can be particularly frustrating for you.
That's because you've learned how life works. You see what you want and you decide you're willing to pay the price to get it.
Typically, the "price" is a lot of hard work. You put in that hard work and you usually get the reward you were going after.
But relationships don't work that way. You can't change the way someone else feels about you simply by trying harder.
And Here's the Really Good News:
Just like he can sense frustration, irritation, and annoyance, he can also sense the opposite. He can sense the positive, alluring vibe that happens when you focus on what you have to offer him.
But there's more to it than just that.
Something changes inside you when you adopt this belief system. The belief that you have something incredibly valuable to offer.
It changes the way you think. And it changes the way you think in such a way that you begin to automatically build momentum.
The way you build momentum is by investing in a future you feel confident about. You begin to take small actions that reflect the confidence you feel in what the relationship will become.
Quick Story:
Now, if you're ready for secret #3, go ahead and skip down to that part now. But if you'd like one example of the 1% rule in action, you'll find this story interesting.
A friend of mine used to work in a nursing home as a recreational director.
She told me the unfolding saga of two employees who worked there.
One was an assistant in her department, and the other was the head of the maintenance department.
The assistant had a huge crush on the maintenance guy.
But the only reason my friend knew about it was because the assistant bashfully asked if she would get in trouble for flirting with a fellow employee at work.
After that, they just seemed to become a couple.
My friend had to ask what happened because she never saw any indication of flirting.
Why is this happening?
As a relationship coach with years of experience, I can take a pretty good guess. It's ambivalence.
In other words, he feels pulled in two different directions.
He wants the good stuff that comes from his relationship with you. But he's nervous about what it all means.
Men go through several stages in life. Each stage changes how they react to the prospect of a committed relationship. I teach courses about those different stages, but it's beyond the scope of what we're trying to accomplish here. So let me just give one summary statement.
Give him a clear definition of success:
That's it. But let me tell you why it works.
You see, he's not afraid of having a fantastic relationship with you. He's not afraid of succeeding with you. He's not afraid of creating something deep and meaningful with you.
Rather, he's afraid of failure. He's afraid of giving you the wrong idea and then changing his mind.
In his mind, he has defined commitment as a trap:
It's not you. You are pleasurable and fun.
But commitment feels like something else. It feels like an unknown.
And floating in a world of ambivalence-a world where he never totally commits to anything-allows him to sidestep the fear of getting stuck in a situation where he can't win.
So your job is to remove the "unknown" part of this equation. Do that and everything changes.
How do you do that? You do it by giving him a more concrete definition of success.
In other words, show him exactly what he needs to do in order to "win" with you. Remove ambiguity. Remove the unknown.
The Synergistic Effect:
Remember how earlier I told you that we convince ourselves with our own actions? Well defining success as pleasure gets him to take action.
Making you happy becomes like a game to him. A game he enjoys. A game he wants to win.
So it's only natural that the more action he takes to make you happy, the more he inadvertently convinces himself that a long-term relationship with you is what he wants. Because at some deep-down level, he senses it would make you happy.
Meanwhile, the 1% rule is operating in the background. Each step feels small, yet it results in a stride that lengthens over time.
Visit our Free Presentation on how to become His Secret Obsession: https://tinyurl.com/ju726as4
#secretobsession #loveandmoney #devotionforlife #secretmaleobsession #loveyoudeserve #physicalattraction
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